I love my husband. I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t. And as many of you know already, one of the biggest reasons I love him is his ability to make me laugh and cheer me up (and sometimes even make me forget that I’m angry at him). And I’ve needed it recently…
People always talk about how much work marriage is, and it’s true. Marriage is hard work – I mean, you are trying to merge your life with another person’s. That’s never going to be easy. But how many people talk about how much work it is to plan the wedding? Probably lots, but not as many listen, because they are too busy dreaming of their fairy tale day.
Well, I’m here to tell you, planning a wedding is busy and stressful. There are a million things to get done. Planning a wedding in a foreign country where you don’t speak the language or fully understand all the customs and are trying to combine customs from two different cultures is even more stressful. And me being the opinionated perfectionist I am…well, let’s just say there have been a few misunderstandings and arguments between my husband and I in the process of planning this event (and as much as I am looking forward to our wedding day, there is a tiny part of me that just can’t wait for it to be over!).
After one such disagreement last weekend, where I thought it was more important that we start planning the wedding part of our wedding (you know, because my parents and brother are flying across an ocean to come and are sort of expecting some sort of ceremony, not just lunch), and he seemed to be more wrapped up in making sure there were bai jiu, melon seeds, and cigarettes for the guests, the following exchange took place as he played with his new iPod Touch.
Husband: There should be some sort of training game for single men. They get a wife in the game and it gives them problems they must try to solve.
Me: So, you could try different solutions and if it didn’t work out well, you could reset it back to the problem and try again until you found one that worked?
Husband: Exactly! It would help single guys get ready for marriage.
Me: But wouldn’t it potentially discourage some from wanting to get married, if they virtually experienced how much work it can be?
Husband: Hmmm….I don’t think so, but maybe. Oh well.